This topic contains 7 replies, has 8 voices, and was last updated by Marie 3 months, 1 week ago.
November 10, 2016 at 2:27 pm #47718
THE VIOLIN CHANNELKeymaster
Are you failing your students by being too nice to them?November 12, 2016 at 6:52 pm #47884
It depends on the student! Some students can tolerate a lot of pressure and rise to an even higher level through detailed work and relentless criticism, while others will crumble and feel insecure under pressure, and lose the confidence to keep trying. It’s a matter of reading the situation – but there’s no benefit in letting things slip when they should be addressed, and after all, the job of the teachers is to help the students progress.November 13, 2016 at 5:25 am #47889
I’m a nice person, but I will never sacrifice the truth and compensate it by being nice.
I’d rather the students know the truth by giving positive & constructive criticisms.November 15, 2016 at 7:44 am #47976
Some pedagogues I respect a lot actually adjust very much to what they think a student needs at any given time. Sometimes it might be cheering them up, to build confidence, other times they might need a more demanding approach to motivate them to try harder. Sometimes they might need as much information, or in detail interpretational suggestions as possible, other times choosing not to say something might be as important and as helpful.November 16, 2016 at 3:16 pm #50092
It depends on the person. However, having taught a variety of personalities, my experience is being honest is the best way to go. Some students do not need the harsh criticism and they thrive under every advice you give them. There are others that will only respond to the truth delivered in a very harsh and morose way. Either due to subconscious ego or whatsoever, those type of students will not thrive under teacher that are nice. It’s not because they don’t want to learn, but it’s because they are being incessantly mollycoddled and feel that whatever they do and however they do it is right and ok.November 16, 2016 at 4:19 pm #50104
If teachers are too nice and easy on their students, they might find that they lose a bit of their authority over the students, who begin to slack off. Or, their students might suffer from simply not being made of aware of issues in their playing which need to be addressed. However, a “mean” approach is not constructive either, as it can end up severely damaging a student’s confidence and motivation. I think the key is to find a balance whilst always maintaining an underlying mutual respect. Directness is fine as long as the comments are constructive and not merely critical.November 18, 2016 at 3:22 am #50178
Very interesting question! My answer would be yes! Of course each student deserves a personal approach but being too nice doesn’t reflect the reality of what they will face in professional life. So better be hard with your students for their own strength in life!!February 16, 2017 at 3:41 am #53563
I have a nice attitude with my students : I don’t get angy, I don’t shout. But if something is wrong, I tell the truth.
I think when we loose our temper, the student can “blame” us : “she was in a bad mood today” “She should relax” etc. When we stay nice and calm, but we point the problems, they can just blame themselves. It’s important to point the good things too!
A collegue said once that a positive learning environnement, allowing mistakes, is always better for the student. He will play more relaxed, and we can make the difference between recurring problems and the stress caused by the lesson.